Is it okay to be settled at 25?
I’m very much of the age where the meme ‘I’m at the age where half my friends are getting married and having the babies and the other half are too drunk to find their phones’ is incredibly relevant to me. I’m 25, in an amazing long term relationship with a great job and incredibly settled. I’m not looking to start a family or go out and get so trashed I can’t remember the evening, and sometimes I feel like that’s slightly odd. I often look at my life and go, you are way too young to feel settled in life, surely you should still be screwing things up after too many G+T’s but then other times I look at where I am and say you’re too old not to be wanting those other things, but the truth is I couldn’t be happier. I love my life and it’s okay to not want something more.
I’m not saying that my life is perfect, I still fret about money, my career, friendships etc but I also know that I couldn’t be happier depsite those things. I always thought that I would be single forever and my career would be my life but I met a man and my life changed, I still have an amazing career which I put a lot of time and effort into but I have a man who supports that and understands the over time I put in without judging me and vice versa. His job means lot’s of late nights and I’m okay with that because I know we are going to wake up next to each other. Don’t get me wrong I’m still an independent woman – he would be first to tell you that!
Being in your mid to late late twenties is a strange time, society expects you to have your sh** together but you’re really just learning who you are! I love the fact that I’ve cut toxic people out of my life and am just focusing on the positive things in life however I can’t deny that I still get FOMO a lot! Instagram gives me an indepth insight into the lives of the girls I used to be friends with who seem to be living their best life, but I can safely say despite the FOMO I’m still so happy with my life. It’s quieter than I expected, there is a lot more wandering around the house in my pj’s sorting out the washing than I thought but I love it! I’m 25, settled and the happiest I’ve ever been! I’m not saying that if you’re 25 and not settled your life isn’t complete but when it does happen be it 20 years from now, tomorrow or in a few months you’ll know and it feels amazing whether it’s because of career, family, friends or your partner, embrace it; enjoy every second!
I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.
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