Contemplating friendships.
*SOME OF THE ITEMS IN THIS POST WERE GIFTED TO ME BY COMPANIES, THIS IS NOT A SPONSORED POST AND ALL MY THOUGHTS AND REVIEWS ARE MY OWN.
When I was a child I thought my school friends would be my friends for my life, my bridesmaids, my knitting buddies in the old folks home but then I realised as I moved on through life that people grow apart and it sucks. As I’ve progressed into my twenties true friends come few and far between, but recently what I realised is that having a huge group of people surrounding you isn’t the be all and end all, it’s the few that stick with you through thick and thin that are important. I can count on one hand the people I consider to be my friends for life because we both make the effort to see each other, we accept each others differences and we support each other like family. That’s not to say I’m discounting the other amazing people I have in my life currently, the people you meet are what shape the future you!
Cardigan – c/o SHEIN|Jeans – ASOS|Scarf – Hush|Shoes – Converse.
I am of the age where I remember MySpace and Bebo where you had your top 8 mates, and these magical 8 were painstakingly chosen; I don’t think I’ve spoken to my top 8 in the last 5 years and it’s really not the end of the world half of them probably don’t really remember me at all. I think people still get caught up in ‘being popular’ even when they are adults and with social media making us push the best parts of our life into the foreground having lot’s of friends and doing fun things with them becomes overly important but let’s face it you’ll be having more fun with your actual friends rather than just people who are sort of your friends but not really.
It’s not the most pleasant feeling when you realise that you and a friend aren’t as close anymore but like a breakup with a boyfriend/girlfriend you’ll move on, maybe even reconcile later on in life but it’s difficult. I’ve sat in bed and cried about not being invited to things, trying to understand what I’d done wrong when in reality I hadn’t done anything I was just at a different stage of my life to those girls so it was time to move on. There is no point in being miserable in a friendship, stressed about what they might think of your views and ideas, doing things you’re just not into because that’s not really friendship at all.
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I can completely relate to this and even though I’ve grown apart from some old friends I’ve also met some amazing new ones!
Many thanks for reading 🙂 New friends are awesome and sometimes the refresher that you need!